Are You in Control ?

Well, Hello there! My name is Akash Rathod. I am a newbie here. The first thing I thought before starting my journey as a Blogger was Of Course not about success or anything magical but.. the fear of being JUDGED ! Yeah! Thanks to the my inner insecurities. Today I'll be sharing with you my perspective about the Influence of Society's Judgement on our lives. Well I forgot to take a new paragraph by the way😛.



Everyone is worthy. It is only the looker who perceives unworthiness and the unworthiness comes from the perceived unworthiness of the looker, never from the one who is looked at. (Dan Keating)




                                          Being JUDGED is a good thing in some manners you know. Your hair are not looking cool enough? You try to make it look cooler. But that's not how It always works.This fear of judgment is linked to the desire to be liked by all at all times. But because that is impossible, this is a losing game that keeps people from uninhibitedly experiencing and expressing their true selves.

So when you fear someone is judging you, what you’re really doing is judging yourself AND the other person.

1. You assume you’ve done something that is going to cause a negative judgement. This is a reflection of your own fears.
2. You assume the other person feels the same way about that action and will also judge you. This is a projection of your own thoughts onto someone else.

Of course, these two assumptions are often incorrect.

We also judge people based on half truths and incomplete information.Whatever the reason, we judge people by constructing a reality we think exists in our mind. But this is just our interpretation of reality – and everyone has their own.

SO is there Any Solution??

Look to Connect

Don’t allow judgement to prevent you from connecting. When we ask discovery questions we open up the brain for connection. When we feel we are connecting the brain down regulates the neurochemistry of distrust, and up regulates the neurochemistry of trust. Try asking someone, “What would you do if you couldn’t fail?” or “What are your aspirations?”

Detach, detach, detach

Our ego likes to attach to drama. When you are conscious of your judgement of another, or their situation, detach yourself emotionally and seek to understand why you feel the need to judge. Attaching to judgement requires a lot of energy. Stop this energy draining pattern by creating awareness.

Human beings will never stop judging. Judging doesn’t make someone bad. Even though it is part of our biology, don’t allow it to hold you back from connecting and expanding. Understanding and navigating judgement can create profound change, collaboration, and growth.

Most of all, it can be helpful to redirect our attention away from what it says about who we are. Instead, shift the judgment to what we can do to improve our situation or appreciate who we truly are. While we can’t avoid being judged, we can avoid letting others define us. ✌